Finding Your Ikigai
By Scott D. Wilson
Have you ever struggled to stay motivated towards a given goal? Whether it was sticking to a financial budget, striving to keep a fitness goal or some other beneficial discipline, you just couldn’t seem to muster what you needed to keep your focus. You are far from alone. What if I were to suggest that you are only seeing a symptom of your trouble? Perhaps there is another element missing from your life that would help to put your goals on track. Perhaps you need to find your ikigai.
When it comes to health, well-being and longevity the world seems to worship at the feet of Okinawa, Japan. Their lifestyles have been exhaustively studied. Many diets and supplements have been created from their way of eating. Their martial arts and meditation practices have been taught and spread around the word. Although these are all noble efforts it is the more recent focus on the people’s philosophy and thinking that has caught my attention.
You see, in Okinawa there is not real concept for retirement. People are simply expected to remain engaged in life throughout their entire lifespan. Oh for sure, people slow down and they may even change occupation but their life experience is constantly being applied in gainful ways. Central to this way of life is the concept of ‘ikigai’ (生き甲斐, pronounced icky-guy). The term ikigai is composed of two Japanese words: iki (生き?), referring to life, and kai (甲斐?), which roughly means "the realisation of what one expects and hopes for". In short, it is "a reason to get up in the morning" or a reason to enjoy life. Everyone, according to the Japanese, has an ikigai.
There is a TED Talk by Dan Buettner who suggested ikigai as one of the primary reasons for the longevity of Okinawans, and he may be onto something. For finding one’s ikigai requires a long and deep search of oneself. Finding your ikigai is akin to finding the meaning of your life. Ikigai brings value to one’s life and it set our purpose. Times may be gloomy and dreary and fortunes may be failing but a person who understands their ikigai presses on with intention and resolve.
It is generally believed that one’s ikigai can be found at the intersection of four areas of one’s life:
#1 What you love.
#2 What you are good at.
#3 What the world needs.
#4 What you can be paid to do.
Imagine that sweet-spot where you are doing something that you love, you are good at, the world needs and you can be paid to do it! That is ikigai. It is that place where your passion, profession, mission and vocation come together. As I said earlier, it gets you up in the morning.
I want people to succeed. To this end I study the successful lives of people throughout history. I seek through the disciplines of philosophy to better see and understand life so that might develop methods to make myself and others more successful and prosperous. I like the concept of ikigai because it draws together all the elements necessary for our success in any venture. We like to believe that we are purely rational creatures making decisions based on our noble beliefs and logical understanding. This is largely bunk. We are irrational and emotional creatures with a capacity to use reasoning.
We try to remain rational but our emotions make most of the decisions and our reasoning minds tag along for the ride. If anything, our rational mind and our emotions and spirit are usually at odds with each other. The rational mind rarely fares well in these conflicts, retreating to a corner and licking its wounds while finding logic to justify our largely illogical choices and decisions. All too often our minds are slaves to our fears, being made to generate sound reasons for avoiding risk and keeping the status quo intact. “If it isn’t broken then why fix it?” we intone to justify remaining as we are, regardless of our state of being.
This is not the best way to live life. This is surviving, not thriving. Those throughout history who were happiest and healthiest followed their hearts and their dreams. They used their passions to face their fears. They were not content to keep what they loved, what they were good at, what they were paid for and what the world needed in separate boxes of their lives. The successful in life fused these four together to fuel their efforts and generate success in all areas of their lives. It did not matter if they were striving in school, working through their career, starting a new business, creating art, perfecting their baking, or losing weight; those who succeeded did so with every facet of their being. They knew largely how to harmonize their emotional and rational minds to resolve the conflict and overcome the inevitable fears that block the path to their success.
We are each a mixture of loves and fears along with experiences and memories. We have been endowed with a marvelous mind that can think, innovate and create. We can tame our fears and we pursue out loves. We can give our lives purpose. This purpose will drive all that we work to achieve. Yes, ikigai gives us a reason to get up but it also brings meaning to everything that we seek to accomplish.
Without ikigai all our noble efforts will be shaky at best. Without a core purpose then we will naturally question following any goal. If we wonder why we are here at this time and place then we will wonder the purpose of doing anything whatsoever. How can such uncertainty succeed? In contrast if we have a core purpose fueling our every breath then we will put our entire being into every goal that harmonizes with our ikigai. If weight loss facilitates our ikigai then we will lose weight. If prosperity helps us to follow our ikigai then we will strive to prosper. If you have united your passion, your mission, your profession and you vocation then you can use that to succeed in all your dreams and hopes.
And so I commend you to seek your own unique ikigai. Stop fumbling with lesser goals. There are many who are content with very little. They shed their quests for fame and fortune and followed a path with heart. They face their fears daily and overcome them. Still others prosper that they might fulfill their deeper purpose. All their goals are full and meaningful because they are tied to their central ikigai. If you have found your motivations flagging and you are asking a lot of ‘whys’ then that is your opportunity to discover your ikigai. Follow those ‘whys’ as far as they will take you. If you can satisfy your own questioning mind and inquisitive heart then an amazing treasure awaits and the Okinawans have named it ‘ikigai.’
©2016 S.D. Wilson
